Have you ever wondered why two people can say exactly the same thing in a meeting, but only one of them gets credit for it? Many times it’s the way we sound that makes the difference between whether or not we are actually heard.
We all know when someone sounds nervous or confident. Think about the following phrase hesitantly uttered, “I have something to say?” versus the same message confidently declared, “I have something to say.” Click here to hear the difference — both instances are my own voice, yet the differences are striking. Which voice do you want your employees to use when speaking to clients?
We’ve heard a lot of discussions recently about uptalk (when our statements sound like questions) and vocal fry (when our voice is low and scratchy, especially at the ends of sentences). These challenges are constantly attributed to female speakers, but I hear them in both men and women — and the solution to both of them is deeper breathing.
As a former opera singer, Allison Shapira knows how much breathing affects how a voice sounds. Singers must use deep breathing in order to project a strong voice across a crowded auditorium to reach every single person in the audience. She never thought that this skill would help her once she left the field of opera — until she had to give her first speech. Then, she realised how much her operatic training made her a powerful public speaker.
Now, having taught public speaking and presentation skills for over a decade, she can say with confidence that the ability to harness your breath is one of the most important and least taught areas within public speaking. It’s critical when you’re speaking up in a meeting and it’s crucial when you’re giving a speech or presentation. It’s one of the key elements of executive presence.
This is not a new issue; Margaret Thatcher took voice lessons when she became Prime Minister of the United Kingdom and there is a “before and after” video where you can hear the difference. Some people thought she was consciously trying to speak with a lower voice (and there is some fascinating research suggesting that people with deeper voices have more success in business and politics). However, Allison hears a difference in Thatcher’s breathing which makes her voice richer, more resonant, and — as a result — lower.
When Allison showed that video to her class at the Harvard Kennedy School, students were split over which they preferred. Some preferred the former voice because it was soft and feminine, while others preferred the latter voice because, well, that’s how they wanted a prime minister to sound.
Regardless of your gender or voice, how do you harness the power of breathing in order to speak with confidence and power?
How often should you breathe? At the very least, at the end of every sentence! If you are prone to rushing through your speech or presentation, then practice breathing at every punctuation mark — it will force you to slow down.
How often should you breathe using this technique? You don’t need to use it all the time. Rather, practice this technique slowly, in the privacy of your home or office, until you can do it easily. After that, aeroplanes are a great place to practice breathing, followed by those endless meetings or conference calls. Practice a few deep breaths at a time, then relax and breathe normally. For 2 minutes a day in the morning, practise speaking the sentence “Hello my name is [your name]” while exhaling slowly. Over time, you can breathe quickly and discreetly between sentences, and it will also calm your nerves before stressful situations such as speeches or difficult conversations.
It’s not about trying to sound like someone else; it’s about giving your voice the richness and fullness it deserves every single time you speak in public so that the power of your voice matches the power of your words. If you do that, people will listen.
This article was originally written by Allison Shapira who teaches “The Arts of Communication” at the Harvard Kennedy School and is the Founder/CEO of Global Public Speaking, a training firm that helps emerging and established leaders to speak clearly, concisely, and confidently. She is the author of the new book, Speak with Impact: How to Command the Room and Influence Others (HarperCollins Leadership), and full credit goes to Harvard Business Review, who published this article over a year ago. This article has been reprinted for the purpose of education.
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